Angry According to Quran-Hadith And How to Manage it?
وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنْ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ – آل عمران: 134
Those who control their anger and are forgiving toward mankind; for Allah loves those who do good. (Quran 3:134)
Anger is an emotion, which is in creation. If it is used correctly then the results will be positive. On the other hand if it is used incorrectly, then the outcome would be negative or detrimental. Everyday everyone experiences problems that can either strengthen or weaken us. Many things cause one to become angry. It is our responsibility to recognize and properly use anger in positive ways to benefit us.
What is the Effect of Anger Attitude?
Causes of Anger are Stress, Economic pressures of life, Not meeting emotional needs in a healthy way and Disappointments in life.
People look for victims and blame their parents, teachers, counselors, associates or friends, former sexual partners or spouse(s), etc. Various forms of exploitations, discrimination, injustices and abuses may have victimized them. These negative experiences result in people acquiring quick tempers and will shout at anyone in their immediate environment.
As believers we must seek advice and protection from Allah SWT. We read in the Quran:
If a suggestion from Satan assails thy (mind) seek refuge with the Creator, for He heareth and knoweth (all things). [Surat Al-A`raf 7:200]
Indeed, those who fear Allah – when an impulse touches them from Satan, they remember [Him] and at once they have insight. [Surat Al-A`raf 7:201]
Anger Management According to Quran & Sunnah
This is the most important rule of behavior for a Muslim. In Surah Al-Imran 3:134, we learn that, “…those who control their anger and are forgiving toward mankind; Allah loves those who do good.”
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Who is strong? He who controls himself when angry”. [Muslim]
It is very easy for us to let go of our tempers and blow into a rage. We should try to remain as calm as possible. The Prophet (peace be upon him) advises us: “When one of you is angry while standing, let him sit down and if his anger goes away that is good; otherwise let him lie down”. (Abu Dawud)
Bukhari in his Sahih relates to us that the Prophet was present when a man became angry to the point that his jugular vein was swelled. He told this man, I know a word the saying of which relaxes he who says it, “Seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan”.
- Seek refuge with Allah
In a hadith reported by al Bukhari, a companion of the Prophet by the name Sulayman Ibn Sard said, “I was sitting with the Prophet, and two men were slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. The Prophet said, ‘I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said “I seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytan,” what he feels (i.e., his anger) would go away’.
- Be calm and silent
When a person becomes angry, there is high tendency for them to lose control and say things they will regret forever. That is why it is extremely important to stay calm and be quiet. Think about what you are about to do or say. The Messenger of Allah said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent”.
- Change position and make Wudu
Prophet Muhammad said in a Hadith narrated by Ahmad and Abo Dawood (deemed authentic): “If one of you got angry while standing then sit down, or if sitting down then lay down. If anger does not go away then do Wudu”.
- Remember the promise of Allah
Allah has promised a great reward for the righteous (muttaqoon) who keep away from the causes of anger and struggle within themselves to control it, as it is one of the most effective ways of extinguishing the flames of anger. One of the Ahadith that describes the great reward for doing this is, “Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection” (Reported by al-Tabaraanee).Another great reward is described in the Prophet’s words: “Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allah will call him before all of mankind on the Day of Resurrection, and will let him choose of the Hoor al-‘Ayn whoever he wants” (Reported by Aboo Dawood, 4777, and others. It is classified as hasan in Sahih al-Jaami’, 6518).
- Remember the Sunnah
The most perfect man ever, our beloved Prophet has set numerous examples from which we can learn. He was a leader, but he only got angry solely for the sake of Allah. If it was not something that affected the religion or something that displeased Allah, he would not be angry.